This really made me mad yesterday. I saw in this an article in the Star. Yeah, yeah, I know. But I had had a rough day and was getting to sit down for the first time and it was there at work so I read it. I realize that this might not be the best source for this woman’s true ideas since the article appeared near pictures of Jessica Simps*n’s boobs and Aston Kutc*er’s webbed toes.
Anyway, the article was about Oprah adopting a child. It mentioned that she would probably adopt an older child.
- But prominent East coast psychologist Dr. Patricia Farrell advocates precisely the opposite. “It’s ridiculous,” Farrell says. “Part of having a child is the mess; it’s when you bond. The first three years of a child’s life are the most important in his or her development. If someone only wants a child who’s potty-trained and talking, I would suspect the person of being narcissistic and self-involved.”
Count me in as narcissistic and self-involved. If I adopt I want an older child. There are so many older kids in the world who need homes. Is this lady saying if the magical third birthday passes the kid by then they need to give up any hope of a family?
Can’t bond with someone if you can’t change their diapers? I’m pretty bonded to the husband and I met him when I was 25 and he was already potty-trained.
People throwing around these kinds of stupid ideas is why more people don’t consider adopting older kids. I’ve heard these from people I know when I’ve talked about it.