The SO has decided to apply for a new job. Out of state. I’m… I don’t know what I’m feeling really. This isn’t a breakup kind of thing since he’s threatening to hogtie me and throw me in the back of the moving van. I’m trying to look at this as a chance for a new beginning but I’m not really feeling it yet.

My objections are all professional, strangely. I hate the environment that I work in now but I’ve got enough time in there that I’ve negotiated the job sort of to my liking. If I moved away I’d be starting again from the beginning. It isn’t like his job where he’d be getting a promotion. There are no such things as promotions for veterinarians.

I’m working on finding a practice to buy. That’s what I’d like to do for the next stage of my career. Ideally in 10 years I’d like to own several practices (My Empire is how I think of it) where I function as a managing director and don’t do a lot of the day to day medical work. I’d like to have time to do things like acupuncture and be able to avoid the stuff I don’t want to deal with. This dream involves starting with one practice and taking the acupuncture course. I’m looking at practices and I want to sign up for the course that starts this spring. So what do I do now? What if I’m unemployed and living somewhere else come spring? I feel like my life plans just got put on hold.

Realistically I know that he’s advanced about as far as he can in his job in this area. I can start an empire anywhere in theory. Even doing grunt work I may be happier than I am in my current job with all the staff fighting. Maybe it is time for a total life change again.

Part of me keeps remembering that that’s how I ended up here. I gave up my job (which was toxic at the time also) to follow a guy to this state and look how that turned out. I’ve no longer got the guy but I’ve got a better one. I liked living here enough that when the guy split I stayed. But where’s the feminism in that? LOL.

He may not even get this job but there will be other ones also out of state. I guess I’ll have to just keep telling myself that this could be good, or this to will pass, or something until I believe it.

3 Replies to “New beginnings?”

  1. Heather,
    Maybe it might help you if you looked at vet clinics around where he’s planning to go? You might even find one that has an opening and is already offering all the services you want to do. If you find something that will further your career then you won’t just be moving for him, but also for yourself. Then it’s no longer a choice but a win-win!
    Good Luck and Best Wishes!

  2. Heather – your statement about building that empire anywhere may well be the key to the answer. Perhaps a new location would not have any one offering the specialized aspect of your service – maybe they are just waiting for you! Such a complicated decision for you…I wish you all the best in working towards what is right for you.

  3. A move can be a good thing and full of new opportunities for you.

    Good luck with the decision making process (and SO’s job application).

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