Our adoption application is going out in the mail today. We decided to go with the only agency in the state who condescended to respond to our request for information.
They asked some hard questions on the form. Actually the questions weren’t that hard but it was hard to make an answer that sounded good but didn’t make you sound like a total jerk. It was stuff like, “What qualities do you have that would make you a good adoptive family?” and “What characteristics do you want in a potential adoptive child?”
The biggest disagreement we had was over the religion question. The husband didn’t want me to put that I was a pagan. He says that no one will give us a kid if I’m an out pagan. Exact quote – “If you had to choose between a normal person and a pagan who would you give the kid to?” Unfortunately for this argument I’ve already declared that there will be no lying in this adoption. If we are declared to be unfit on the basis of who we truly are then so be it. This will be very hard for him because he’s the type of person who continously feels the need to make things sound “better” by exaggerating the facts. So as a compromise on this form I’m going to “forget” to fill in the religion line on my part of the form. He doesn’t realize that this will be covered in depth probably in the home study.