Urges again./ posted in: Adoption
I’m getting the urge again. Even after dealing with kid mental breakdowns all weekend (see last post – the password is newlife if you don’t already have it), I’m starting to think about adoption again. Even after the last attempt blew my life to smithereens I never lost the urge to adopt.
I started out wanting to do international. The ex wasn’t willing so we were working on domestic. Now a year later I’m not sure that I’d want to do the domestic route again. In order to be up for adoption in the US through the foster system there needs to be such severe abuse that it scares me. I don’t know that I’m ready for that. I’m not under the impression that kids from other countries aren’t traumatized by abandonment or being orphaned but for the most part they haven’t been sexually and physically abused to the extent that kids here are. There are also so many rules here because the children are considered to be foster kids for 6 months after placement. The foster system rules, at least in this state, were restrictive enough that I was going to have to quit my job in order to follow them all. They are not designed for 2 working parents. Since I’m not in a place now where quitting is an option, I don’t know that US adoption is feasible for me.
International adoption has always been my first passion anyway. I know it will be awhile but I’m starting to get twitchy again. I find myself surfing the adoption sites looking at country requirements to see what countries I qualify for…